RTF Reads: The Monster at the End of this Book
Did you read this book as a kid? I remember loving this book! But now, as an adult, and particularly as an anxiety therapist, I see it through a fresh perspective.
5 Ways to Calm Your Nervous System
Five ways to calm your nervous system: mindfulness, breath, body, thoughts, and behavior
Chattering Mind Keeping You Awake? Try This …
A surprising take on sleep meditation: 99 bottles of beer on the wall. Yes, really…
Can blood tests predict future anxiety and depression?
A recent study suggests that your current blood sugar and cholesterol levels may predict your future risk of stress, anxiety, and depression.
The One Thing You Must Do To Change Your Life
To change your life, you must change how you respond to the thoughts you’re currently experencing.
Three Strategies to Challenge Negative Thinking
Negative thoughts help to create negative emotion. Explore three strategies to shift negative thinking to improve your emotional wellbeing.
Use your breath and body to calm your nervous system
We can use our breath and body to calm our nervous system, to communicate directly with our brain.
The #1 reason I recommend my clients meditate
The #1 reason I recommend my clients meditate … and it’s probably not what you think.
Root to Flourish READS: ‘The Book of JOY: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World'
‘Root to Flourish READS’ recommends ‘The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World’ by His Holiness The Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu. This book chronicles a week-long conversation with these two spiritual leaders, allowing their own wisdom to provide an answer to the question: How do we find joy in the face of inevitable suffering?
Where can happiness be found? (A ‘Real Life Fantasy’ post)
Taking inspiration from Professor Dumbledore, we reflect on where we can find happiness, from within.
Root to Flourish READS: ‘Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear' by Elizabeth Gilbert
‘Root to Flourish READS’ recommends ‘Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear’ by Elizabeth Gilbert. This book is filled with wonder and joy, and encourages the reader to allow curiosity and lead the way in living a meaningful, creative life.
The courage of living curiously
When you attempt to decide, or plan for, or figure out, or control a situation when you really are unable to do any of those things, you’re attempting to create a safe, predictable space for yourself where you know what will happen next.
But … that’s not actually possible. You can’t actually do that …
When, instead, you 'Allow', you voluntarily choose to loosen your grip on the reins, to let go of the fallacy that simply because you make decisions and plan and predict, that things will go consistently with that vision. And, when you set down your attempts to figure out and control, you get the gift of approaching your life with curiosity and excitement instead of fear.
Perfectionism can steal your soul
Perfectionism is not about healthy goal setting, goal achievement, and personal growth. There is an ugly underbelly to perfectionism. We use it as a force field to protect ourselves against the disapproval, criticism, and judgment of others, and internal feelings of disappointment and worthlessness. And it exacts a significant cost to us.
There is no secret ingredient: A golden nugget from the noodle shop (Real Life Fantasy)
Taking inspiration from Mr. Ping’s Secret Ingredient Soup, from Kung Fu Panda, we explore the notion that it is only when you accept yourself – when you stop the search for the non-existent secret ingredient – that you can truly thrive and see how special you are.
Thriving with Autumn Anxiety
Autumn anxiety is a real thing! Neurochemical, biological, and psychological factors all contribute to an increase in anxiety symptoms and low mood in the fall. But, we can thrive and live fully in the fall with increased awareness and intentional practices.
Real Life Fantasy: Enchanted Anxiety - in Ron Weasley's 'Howler'
Like anxiety, the Howler ramps up it’s response to being avoided, escalating to explosions, curses, and insults!
How to Explain Anxiety: The Irony of Anxiety
Anxiety thrives in the paradox, in the irony. The harder we try to get rid of it, the more anxious we feel. It can become a self-fulfilling prophecy, turning our intentions against us, and creating the very thing we are trying to prevent. And, it sneakily makes us believe that we’re in control and that certainty is attainable.
How to Explain Anxiety: Anxiety is a Boggart
Anxiety - like the boggarts of the wizarding world of Harry Potter - shifts its shape to the thing each person fears the very most. Your anxieties are drawn from your individual insecurities and the earlier experiences in your life that build their foundation.
How to Practice Gratitude - Even, and Most Especially, When Things Suck
Gratitude is not fluff, nor is it toxic positivity. The goal of grateful living is not to pretend that everything’s fine, or to live in a fantasy world populated by puppies and rainbows and unicorns… In fact, gratitude is most especially important at the worst times of our lives.
Overcome Anxiety by Addressing Avoidance
Paradoxically, the intuitive attempt to keep yourself safe and comfortable, the effort to avoid anxiety, only serves to increase the anxiety. Although the immediate act of avoidance may result in a moment of relief, it only serves to exacerbate (make worse) and perpetuate (allow it to continue) your experience of anxiety.