It’s not enough to intellectually understand that our lives are finite; we must allow that truth to emotionally resonate … and when it does, we must then allow it to affect a change in how we view our day-to-day lives, and in how we actually live those lives.

Gandalf the Grey, from J.R.R. Tolkein’s ‘The Lord of the Rings,’ provides wisdom regarding our use of time. What does. he mean by “so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” This Real Life Fantasy post explores how wishing can create suffering, and how we can respond to the cares of the world.

There are consequences to living in a future-oriented way: Doing so robs you of your very life. You prevent yourself from being fully present and engaged in the moments of your actual life, which is occurring right now, by always looking forward to the next thing. And, if you cannot be satisfied with this moment as it is, you will not be able to appreciate – or be satisfied by – any other future moments as they are.

Autumn anxiety is a real thing! Neurochemical, biological, and psychological factors all contribute to an increase in anxiety symptoms and low mood in the fall. But, we can thrive and live fully in the fall with increased awareness and intentional practices.

Anxiety thrives in the paradox, in the irony. The harder we try to get rid of it, the more anxious we feel. It can become a self-fulfilling prophecy, turning our intentions against us, and creating the very thing we are trying to prevent. And, it sneakily makes us believe that we’re in control and that certainty is attainable.

Anxiety - like the boggarts of the wizarding world of Harry Potter - shifts its shape to the thing each person fears the very most. Your anxieties are drawn from your individual insecurities and the earlier experiences in your life that build their foundation.

The way real long-term change happens isn’t sexy. And it doesn’t happen just because it’s January 1st, or a Monday.

Your thoughts, what you tell yourself, your self-talk are powerful determinants of anxiety. And the thoughts that create anxiety are often untrue, even irrational.

The present moment is the only moment that you actually have available to you. You spend the actual moments when you are alive anticipating future moments and remembering past moments so you never get to enjoy and thrive in the moments when everything is okay.

Learning to tolerate – and even embrace – uncertainty is a skill that can be learned. And, doing so can change your life.

Sourdough baking, should you choose to heed the call, provides an opportunity to reflect, look within, and improve your emotional wellbeing.

Choose how you’d like to spend your days. And then expend the effort to claim them … to catch them, and fully live them.